I would normally make a video on my Elliott Hulse YouTube Channel for a question like this but I have been super busy since the children have gotten out of school this week. (don’t worry I’ll get back to posting videos again soon).
Anyway, here is a question from someone that I really wanted to answer. I wrote him a text answer but since I thought the topic to be an important one, I’ve posted it here for you to read.
QUESTION: (edited and paraphrased) I cant find one thing in my life worth living for i feel trapped, ive always believed that if your not happy you should stop and change the things that are making you unhappy but this time i feel trapped every thing i try and do comes to a dead end.
im almost 26 and live at home in my old room and the reel reason im down is i have a girlfriend that dose not love me even though i love her more than any one in the world, i know that when im with her there is still apart of her that is wishing i was her ex a guy who used to beat her and cheated on her i know she loves him instead of me and is pushing me away more and more because she is not over him she even tried to kill her self when he left and i promised my self and her i wouldn’t hurt her like that and now im the one getting hurt, every time i talk about how i feel she says it not all about me and i should man up and accept it.
What to do?
ELLIOTT’S OFFER: A few things to consider…
First, you’re right, life isn’t “worth” anything except for what you decide it’s worth.
But its hard to give life value if you’re not actually LIVING in it. Life is lived in the body, not the mind. The body is what experiences pleasure and pain, not the mind… the mind can only create pictures.
That said, do you exercise? — You need to breathe deep and get in touch with your body first. No philosophy or theorizing can help this… you simply have to move.
Begin by doing my Bioenergizer Warm Up everyday… several times a day if you can.
Next, modern relationships are funny.
Sex and relationship between men and women is composed of two elements… tenderness and aggression.
Both sexes posses each element, but woman are naturally more “tender” while men are more “aggressive” by nature.
But our roles have become confused and reversed. Women have given away their tenderness in order to adopt the aggressive attitude that our neurotic world values so much… and men have shed their aggressiveness to become more politically correct and acceptable in our mixed up world.
So we end up with women who have lost their natural place as “tender receivers and nurturers” who now walk around with a facade of “aggressiveness”. But naturally they want to receive aggression from men (not beating, but just assertive behavior)… the paradox is that they say they want a “nice guy”, meaning non-assertive (this is due to a longing to embrace their own rejected tenderness).
Men trying to be “nice”, suppress their natural tendency to aggress towards women and in life… they end up becoming become a passive player in the relationship.
This leaves everyone confused. Women with too much penis attitude, yet starving for an aggressor. And men who have suppressed their natural aggression and adopted a “pussy” attitude in order to be nice (tender / passive).
Its all fucked up.
What YOU need to do is “man up”.
This means find your place in the world FIRST. The way you aggress towards the world is going to be an indicator to women as to how you might aggress sexually towards them.
Woman want to invite a man “in” who is “out” in the world. He is a doer… he is a DICK! (meaning extends himself towards the world and his woman)
You mentioned that you have a business… get you business right.
Get OUT in the world, begin to exercise and THEN women will be begging to invite you in.